Not quite… 
My preference toward physical controllers is probably swayed by the fact that I am somewhat of a flight control aficionado
I love building them and tinkering with them. I prefer the way they feel in my hands and under my feet, over hand controllers. Making my living as a pilot have probably conditioned my arms and legs to expect some forces when moving the controls. What I would like to see is large force feedback sticks. Using no-force hand controllers is a step away from what I want. So this is all about personal preferences and feelings, not facts
But as I mentioned earlier, I do see the upsides of VR controller flying and who knows, one day I might just switch. But today is not that day… 
Well, resting the arms on my thighs doesn’t feel right to me. The stick grip isn’t down between your thighs, it’s above them, or the thighs would be in the way.
But there’s no right or wrong way in this. Or, rather, whatever works for you and keeps you happy, is the right way 
DCS supports this, although I’m not sure all aircraft modules have support yet.